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Transformation Blog: Readings from Learning to Live and Love Like Jesus

 

 

Hands Open/Hands Closed (Giving II)

Brandon Cook

Perhaps we can see the invitation to Biblical faith most clearly in the invitation to give. We are told to give, even if we don’t feel like it.[1] We are to bless others with our money, even if some part of us fears that there might not be enough left over.[2] Since we are talking about taking action with our bodies, here’s a little body exercise: Pause for a moment and open your hands, palms up. Feel what that posture invites. Can you feel it calling you to an attitude of openness? Of trust? Of awe and wonder and curiosity? Now clinch your fist as tight as you can. What does that feel like? What does it invite you into? Into defensiveness? Into anger? Into self-protection?

Just this morning, I went to the Long Beach Antique Market with a good friend. We actually got up at 5:30 AM so that we were there when the gates opened. Miracles do happen. My friend found a beautiful table at a very good price, but after walking to the ATM and getting money out, she decided that she didn’t want the table after all. This put her in the awkward position of going back to the vendors and telling them that she had changed her mind. I watched from a distance as she walked back to the older man and woman who were standing there selling their furniture, engaged them in conversation, and then reached into her wallet and handed them a string of twenty dollar bills and told them that she would come back for the table. When I asked what had changed her mind, she said that she'd really liked the couple and that she wanted them to have a sale. But an hour later when it was time to leave and I asked her about picking up the table, she said, “You know, I think I’m going to let it go.” I tilted my head to the side, puzzled. “I really liked that couple,” she said, “but I don’t need the table, not really.”

I know my friend and I know her generosity. I know that she is so very in tune with God’s Spirit that I could guess, without embarrassing her into telling me, that she had felt great compassion for this couple, and that she probably felt they needed the money. And then I reflected on how I relate to money very differently. My friend tends to relate with her hands always open, and I tend to relate with a much tighter fist. Perhaps it’s because my friend is a bit older and in a different financial situation, or perhaps it’s because she’s known what it’s like to be truly poor. But I also know that it’s more than that: she has trained herself into a life of open-handedness. Of generosity. Of giving her listening and her time and her heart to so many people that it has become a way of life. Because God has consistently taught me to refrain from judging myself, I am free from having to compare myself to her. But I am challenged. I am inspired. I am humbled by the generosity I see in my friend, because I see and experience Jesus in and through it.

Hands open and hands closed represent two postures we can embody. Hands open is the very posture Scripture continually invites us into. Indeed, the Scripture even compares hard-heartedness with tight-fistedness and then tells us to live with open hands![3] The goal is that by training our bodies to live into a certain posture, the rest of us will follow. By training our bodies, I mean taking action in the real world, beyond the conceptual world that exists in our minds. This is so different from just trying to think our way into a new way of behaving. “It is more blessed to give than to receive” no doubt in part because, in giving, our very hearts become opened, not only to God and others, but also to our own selves.[4] In giving, we become open doors, able to welcome the love and generosity of God.

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[1] E.g., Luke 17:4.

[2] Though the inspired Scriptural imagery constantly paints the picture that a life of giving leads to a life of more than enough. Think, for instance, of the twelve baskets of food left over from five pieces of bread and two sardines (Matthew 14:13-21).

[3] See Deuteronomy 15:7-11.

[4] Acts 20:35.

How Are We Transformed? (Giving I)

Brandon Cook

Discipleship is transformation, so how does it happen? That is the question at the center of learning to live and love like Jesus. How, for example, are wounds from our past (or present) transformed, from holes within ourselves over which we keep tripping into scars and limps that ultimately remind us of the love of God that continually makes us whole? How are old habits that keep us mired in misery replaced with habits that keep us grounded in the life and grace of God, living as ambassadors of the Reign of God? How are we changed to live for the world in a new way, loving those Jesus gives us to love? 

These are big questions, and there are many assumptions about what catalyzes transformation. A huge assumption in the Western world—rooted as we are post-Enlightenment and focused on reason and the supremacy of science—is that information will lead to transformation. In other words, just get enough knowledge into your head and transformation will naturally follow. Of course, Paul says that “knowledge puffs up,” and we all know that there are a lot of smart people who prove it.[1] No, information by itself does notnecessarily lead to transformation. We can all attest to this if we’ve read great books or heard great sermons that have done little to change our lives.

Some would say that we act our way into transformation, doing things that we don’t necessarily feel aligned with and hoping that our heart and mind will catch up with our actions. You’ve probably heard the advice, “Smile even if you don’t feel like it and you’ll eventually feel happy.” It sounds a bit trite, but is there any truth to it?

These are important considerations. Do we think ourselves into a new way of behaving, or do we behave ourselves into a new way of thinking?

It’s a false dichotomy, of course, because information is valuable, as are sermons, classes, conferences, and book study. Still, information without action remains mere theory, with little punch. In other words, transformation takes both right knowledge and committed action. (Yet another both-and, if you’re keeping track.)

Our problem is that we often overly favor the theoretical, the informational, the conceptual, leaving knowledge unmarried to action and perhaps missing both the critical relationship between knowledge and action and the reality that transformation is always embodied in our habits, not just in our thoughts or beliefs. It is true, after all: something does happen in the act of smiling. Thinking about smiling is different than actually smiling, and choosing to smile has a physiological effect on your body that can change the way you feel.[2] If we take action, our hearts and minds do end up following. Anyone who has forgiven someone when they didn’t feel like forgiving them, or given thanks when it was hard, knows this reality. Knowing you are supposed to forgive is entirely different from doing it. Thinking about gratitude is entirely different from giving thanks. 

Indeed, the idea that faith expresses itself as action is fundamental to Hebraic thought: faith, to Israel, was not primarily something you ascribed to but rather something you lived out.[3] In Judaism, there is very little focus on doctrine per se—certainly not like you find in Christianity, which was eminently influenced by Greek thought and its focus on conceptual truth and logic. In Jewish thought, there is instead a huge focus on faith as what we live and do. Faith, to the Hebrews, could only be seen and identified in the context of an embodied, practicing life. Jesus, of course, says that our work is to believe in him, and that those who do are saved.[4] This sounds, at first, quite conceptual, as if “belief” is something that happens primarily or only in our minds. But Jesus makes it clear that it’s those people whose faith takes action for the sake of another who are saved.[5] To Jesus, then, faith is not just something we believe or ascribe to, it’s something we live out. Saving belief always expresses itself in action, or it’s not actual belief. This is why James can later write that “faith without works is dead.”[6] It’s not a dichotomy between belief and action, it’s the proposition that true faith always expresses itself as action.[7] Without action, James says, our faith is “worthless.”[8] In fact, we who live on the far side of the Reformation tend to be very concerned about tainting grace with “works theology,” the belief that you can earn God’s favor or your own salvation by what you do. It’s a good and fair concern, as truly we are saved by God’s movement toward us, and not the other way around. But in that concern we might miss how often the New Testament tells us that faith requires us to move in good deeds, for the sake of the world.[9] Paul says, for example, that everyone will be judged by what they do.[10] This emphasis on action is hard to miss in the Scripture, if you read the text honestly. And it puts us in touch with yet another both-and: apart from Jesus we can’t do anything, and yet we are called to do the good things he’s prepared in advance for us to do.[11] We must act, knowing that we can’t act without God. 

New Testament scholar Matthew Bates makes the argument that what we call “faith” can, in fact, be more accurately understood in its New Testament context as “allegiance,” a whole-bodied expression of belief in everyday life.[12] The problem is that walking out and embodying our faith can be quite uncomfortable. We really like the idea of faith as mental assent; it gets us off of the hook. We can (supposedly) be good Christians by simply ascribing to some creeds without ever needing to encounter—let alone trust, obey, and submit to—God nor doing any of the vulnerable things Scripture commands, like being transformed, forgiving, giving thanks, and so on. 

I once returned to the South to visit family after a particularly grueling season of pastoring in California. Our community had just walked through some painful relational breakdowns, marriages blowing up, secrets being exposed. A real pastoral enchilada. I was exhausted, and many in our community were hurt and angry. Upon my arrival in Alabama, the father of one of my friends quickly asked me, “So, let me ask you this: What do you think about the five points of Calvinism?” It was not a casual question; the man’s bearing let me know that I was on trial, and that I was to be judged as passing or failing based on my theological acumen. I honestly don’t remember how I responded, but inwardly I was thinking, “Our people aren’t overly concerned with this finer point of theology right now, and at the moment, neither am I.” Our concern was to get through an emotional trial and to be obedient to Jesus in the midst of it, whatever that meant or looked like.

Let me be explicitly clear: I’m not saying that theology is not important; far from it. Theology is of great importance, and it helps structure our sense of reality. It’s just that theology can be a very safe place for people—for Christians—to hang out (and, dare I say, hide?) in a conceptual world in which we get to be right. The problem is that this is exactly where those who crucified Jesus were hiding out. Being right about our theology can quickly become our own way of making ourselves powerful, and it can cause us to miss walking in the humble spirit of Jesus. The point is, you can only do truly good theology from the humble place of “a poor spirit.”[13] It’s always easier just to be dogmatic about our doctrines without having to do them, although this robs our theology of any power, even if it’s right. Ascribe to this catechism and you’re saved, voila! You can then have certainty and “be right,” even if you aren’t transformed. 

But Scripture and our own experience point us to a different reality: real faith always involves ambiguity, wrestling, and heartache. Faith, by its definition, demands uncertainty. You can’t have faith if you have certainty. Abram trusted God despite not knowing how it was all going to work out; he just trusted, because of who God is, that it would. He didn’t know how God was going to make him “the father of a great nation,” but he trusted, nevertheless.[14] This kind of faith requires heart-level trust in the midst of uncertainty. Biblical faith, thus, means taking action even when we don’t understand how everything will resolve. It’s this faith which embodies itself in the midst of tension, despite uncertainty—like Abram getting on a camel and leaving Ur or walking the long path to Mount Moriah—that experiences resurrection life.[15]

The invitation of Scripture, then, is to take action and see how God visits our trust. It means giving thanks even when things seem bleak or forgiving even when we feel it will kill us. This kind of trust and action transforms us. In the process, we become confident in our right knowledge as it goes from concept to reality, from an idea that exists in our mind to a reality experienced in our being. 

Faith, then, becomes very practical. It plays out in the everyday patterns and habits of our lives as we align our lives with God’s Spirit and His words. It plays out in what we do with our time and money, in how we spend our seconds and our cents. This is why the spiritual life is built on habits, behaviors that are consistently practiced. As we engage practices that open us to God, we truly live our way into a new way of thinking and a new way of being. 

For all of these readings in one place, order my book 'Learning to Live and Love Like Jesus.'

[1] I Corinthians 8:1.

[2] There is debate about the scientific viability of this theory. See Radiolab Podcast’s “Stereothreat” episode. November 23, 2017.

[3] I’ve heard it put this way: if a Greek wants to know who someone is, he asks them what they think. If a Jewish person wants to know who someone is, he goes and lives with them for a week. In the Greek mindset, we tend to think of faith as mental assent, whereas in the Hebrew mindset faith is seen as embodied. To Israel, “faith” means “faithfulness.”

[4] John 6:29.

[5] E.g., Matthew 7:21-23; 25:31-46.

[6] James 2:20.

[7] This is not an argument that we are somehow saved by what we do. We can be assured of salvation by grace alone because God has chosen us before we’ve gotten everything sorted out, and we love Him because He first loved us (I John 4:19). We are always responding to grace, never earning it. The point, rather, is that a faith that responds—which is the type of faith Jesus always highlights and for which there is plenty of room for failure, missing the boat, and struggling toward maturity—has often been replaced with a notion of “faith” in which the struggle for maturity has been completely divorced from the spiritual journey. Such merely conceptual faith is not faith at all, in the biblical sense. Faith as mental assent really only makes sense if you relate to salvation as “going to heaven when you die,” and in which, therefore, correct mental belief is akin to a password into the club. But if salvation is a relationship with God, then of course it demands response, for there is no relationship with any being, human or Divine, in which love can ever remain merely conceptual. If I say I love my wife but then run around on her, don’t provide for her, and don’t listen to her, you would rightly conclude that, words aside, I don’t really love her. 

[8] James 2:20.

[9] James 1:27: “Pure and genuine religion in the sight of God the Father means caring for orphans and widows in their distress and refusing to let the world corrupt you.”

[10] Romans 2:6.  

[11] John 15:5, Ephesians 2:10. 

[12] See Salvation by Allegiance Alone: Rethinking Faith, Works, and the Gospel of Jesus the King by Matthew Bates. Baker Academic, Grand Rapids, MI. 2017.

[13] See Matthew 5:3. The “poor in spirit” are aware of their great spiritual poverty and their great need for God. Their poverty lends them humility.

[14] See Genesis 12:2ff.

[15] Genesis 12:1-9, Genesis 22.

Towards a Gratitude-Formed Life (Gratitude VII)

Brandon Cook

Our souls need to sit in silence, and our hearts need to give thanks. Gratitude lifts us out of dark waters. It sails us above the squall. Like an eagle who flies into the storm, trusting the headwinds to lift her above the fray, so are we called to fly. So how do we establish gratitude as a practice that helps us see?

Like so many practices, gratitude is best learned as a daily practice. And like so many others, it requires a grounding in The Slow Life to make it stick. To savor something, our bodies and minds need to slow down. Negative thoughts naturally assail us and produce anxiety without any effort or intention on our parts. But a Generous Life grounded in gratitude takes intentionality and practice. Thankfully, even a few moments of giving thanks can be transformative, opening us to the Spirit of God and empowering us to love others as Jesus does.

Think about your daily life. How do your currently practice gratitude? How might you strengthen that practice? How might you incorporate new expressions of gratitude into your rhythm of life? It’s okay to start small; just start. 

One practice I engage—on days where I wake up before my children, which at this point is rare—is to roll out of bed and to spend some moments, usually on my knees, simply breathing, noticing my body, feeling the weight of the air and the morning and then praying the Lord’s Prayer. In the midst of this prayer, when I get to the first phrase, “Your name is good,” I often pause to climb the ladder of gratitude. 

Perhaps for you, a daily practice of gratitude will mean keeping a gratitude journal. Or maybe once a week you will begin a meal with friends or family in an extended time of giving thanks. My wife and I often play a game with our friends called “Highs and Lows,” in which everyone at the table recounts the highest high and the lowest low from the past week (or month or year). It’s a way of honoring one another by entering into lament and also moving into gratitude, together. 

Perhaps a daily practice of gratitude will mean giving thanks for all the stuff you don’t need and giving it away. We are so surrounded by stuff—even if we think we are poor—that the preponderance of “so much stuff” ends up ruining our capacity to feel gratitude because we are so aware of what we think we are missing. A powerful prayer of thanks can be, simply, “Thank you, God that I don’t need this or that to be okay” and then taking action to de-clutter our lives. 

To that point, fasting—a temporary, voluntary reduction in comfort so that we can more easily direct our energy to God—is a practice deeply connected to gratitude.[1]

The point is: listen to the Spirit of God and be creative. Gratitude can take many different shapes. Whatever the path, it’s important that we develop a consistent practice of thanks that grounds our lives in a posture of trust. And however you practice it, beneath your thanksgiving you will find a wonderful confession: “I’m weak, but You’re a Good and Generous Father, and that’s enough!” 

Let us move our hearts into this posture of thanksgiving, that our spiritual eyes will be full of light. In seeing the Living God, we are indeed saved.

For all of these readings in one place, order my book 'Learning to Live and Love Like Jesus.'

[1] See ‘Chapter 13, The Grounded Life: Fasting.’